What the Quran says:
Do not even go close to fornication. It is indeed a shameful act, and an evil way to follow. [Sura Isra: 32]
Warning from Hadith
Saiyeduna ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar رضي الله عنه narrates that Rasulullah ﷺ turned to us and said (meaning):
‘O Muhajireen, there are five things with which you will be tested, and I seek refuge with Allah that you live to see them. Immorality never appears among a nation to such an extent that they commit it openly, but plagues and diseases that were never known among the predecessors will spread among them. They do not cheat in weights and measures but they will be stricken with famine, severe calamity and the oppression of their rulers. They do not withhold the Zakah of their wealth, but rain will be withheld from the sky and was it not for the animals, no rain would fall on them. They do not break their covenant with Allah and His Messenger, but Allah will enable their enemies to overpower them and take some of what is in their hands. If their leaders do not rule according to the Book of Allah and seek all good from that which Allah has revealed, Allah will cause them to harm one another.’ (Sunan Ibn Majah, Mustadrak Hakim, Shu’abul Iman)
What is the way out
The fundamental point
As Muslims, we need to simply pay heed to what has been said in the Quran and Hadith. This is the gist of whatever way out can be advised or recommended. Indeed, a human’s every aspect of life issues could be addressed mainly through divine guidelines. This is the principle and fundamental point.
We know the rightly said proverb: Prevention is better than care. It is absolutely true in this case too. We need to take the rightful initiatives of prevention against all such immoral acts, primarily at our homes. We shouldn’t ignore and neglect this ‘little effort’ as we could do little, for the general people. Because this is also an obligation to our children and the ones who are our subordinates, we have to teach and educate them the righteous lessons. The righteous teaching of Deen seems light and trivial initially. In fact, it is a great effort and the most important one to nurture our generation. It is the effort that builds up the foundation of a child’s life. This is the first and foremost duty we should carry on by all means. Anyone neglecting to do so would be accountable in the court of Allah. Providing the children with the rightful education of Deen is a compulsory act. General education has nothing to do with building Taqwa and building a Muslim’s character. In every Muslim family, a regular and special arrangement of Deeni-Taleem or Deeni education is fully required somehow. This is an obligation of the leading member of a family. Besides making arrangements for their food, shelter, and clothing, he requires to educate the family members regarding life’s goal and assist in preparing them for the afterlife.
We recommend the following most important FIVE points to develop a piety individual and family life.
Stick to the Pious
This means to abandon the sinful people, whoever-however makes an appeal to sinful activities. Also, this means that read the books of the pious.
Pray five times daily, sincerely and timely
This is of utmost importance! Anyhow, you have to start doing so. At the outset, you may start with once or twice a day, but ultimately you have to strive and make a habit to say your five times prayers.
Identify and isolate from every evil company and tools who/which invite towards sins
Bad company, computers, cell phones and all the devices alike should either be completely abandoned or strictly used only as per necessity.
Whenever you feel like doing the sin, turn to Allah
This can be done through dua, zikr and any good action.
Supplicate a lot and seek divine help
Specially supplicate for divine assistance. Recite the dua from Hadith:
اللهم طهر قلبي من النفاق و عملي من الرياء و لساني من الكذب و عيني من الخيانة فانك تعلم خائنة الأعين و ما تخفي الصدور
Transliteration: Allahuma tahhir qalbi minan nifaq wa ‘amali minar riya wa lisani minal kadhib wa ‘ayni minal khiyana fa inaka t’alamu khainatal a’ayuni wa ma tukhfis sudur
Meaning: ‘O Allah, purify my heart from hypocrisy, my actions from the show, my tongue from lies and my eyes from deception. For surely You fully aware of the deception of the eyes and all that the chest conceals.’ (Ad-Da’watul Kabir of Bayhaqi)
If the sin occurs, instantly do Tauba
If sin, don’t delay doing Tauba. Do wuzu and perform two rakaat salaat.
Additional advice to the leading roles of a Muslim family
Always consult a qualified pious scholar regarding the Deeni (religious) development of your family. Consult specific issues and matters in time, with patience. Take all necessary steps to advance your family on Allah’s Path. Know what is compulsory for you, what actions should be refrained from and how should you take initiatives to move forward in terms of Imaan and righteous deeds. Make common time to daily sit with your family members, with all, and discuss the importance of preparation for the afterlife. Reading books such as Jaza-ul-A’maal by Shaikh Ashraf Ali Thanvi rahmatullahi alaihi is very effective in this regard.